Understanding Who You Are

A guided, strengths-based exploration of identity — grounded in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

About this workbook

Why understanding yourself matters

This workbook is designed to help you build a clear, honest, and strengths-based understanding of who you are. By reflecting on the things that have shaped you — your influences, the moments that energise you, your strengths, your relationships, and your core values — you'll begin to see the patterns that reveal your identity at a deeper level.

Often we move through life without pausing to connect these pieces together. This is your space to step back and recognise what has shaped you, what drives you, how you naturally show up in the world, and what truly matters to you.

This is not about judging yourself or focusing on what you lack. It is about recognising your experiences, strengths, and resilience — and using them to define a version of yourself that feels authentic and empowering.

What you'll gain

Self-awareness & clarity

A clearer understanding of your decisions, behaviours, and direction in life.

What you'll build

A foundation for change

A grounded base for moving forward in a way that is aligned with your values.

How to use this workbook

Work at your own pace. There are no right answers — write honestly, in your own words, and take your time with each section.

Your answers save only in this browser, on this device — nothing is sent to us or stored online. Close the page and return any time to continue, or turn this off with the switch at the top.

When you're ready, select Download as PDF at the top to keep, print, or share a finished copy.

Approach this with curiosity and kindness. The aim is observation — noticing what is true for you — not self-criticism.

Your privacy. Everything you write stays on this device, in your browser only. It is never uploaded, sent to us, or shared with anyone. You can turn saving off at any time with the Save on this device switch at the top. On a shared or public computer, switch it off or select Clear when you finish, so nothing is left behind.

Contents

Your journey through the workbook

Five reflective steps, plus space to bring it all together into your story. The dots fill in as you complete each section.

01Your Influences & Inspirations 02Moments of Aliveness & Flow 03Strengths & Capabilities 04Your Role in Relationships 05Core Values

Your Story — A Strengths-Based Narrative

Foundations

Your Influences & Inspirations

Understand the external mirrors that have shaped your internal compass.

Name three people you have aspired to be like — real or fictional — and the specific qualities you admired in each.

Who has had the biggest impact on how you see yourself — and why? What traits in others do you strongly dislike? What might that reveal about your own values?

Energy & engagement

Moments of Aliveness & Flow

Identify where your attention and energy naturally want to go.

What activities have made you lose track of time? When have you felt most energised or engaged? What do you enjoy doing even when it is challenging? If you had a completely free day, how would you choose to spend it?

Capability

Strengths & Capabilities

Recognise what you are good at — the abilities you can build on.

What are you naturally good at? What skills have you developed over time? When have others relied on you — and why?

Connection

Your Role in Relationships

Understand how you tend to show up in the world with others.

When you have felt most like yourself, who were you to other people? (For example: supporter, leader, creator, listener, organiser.) How do others typically describe you? What kind of impact do you want to have on the people around you?

Bringing it together

Your Story — A Strengths-Based Narrative

Using your reflections on influences, flow, strengths, relationships, and values, write a personal introduction — the story of your life so far, told in strengths-based language, from the beginning to the present day.

Consider including

— Where you come from and what has shaped your perspective

— The people who inspired you and the qualities you admired in them

— The challenges you have faced and how you responded or grew through them

— The moments where you felt most alive, engaged, or truly yourself

— The strengths and abilities you have developed along the way

— The role you tend to play in relationships and the impact you have on others

— The values that guide your choices — and what you are passionate about, and why it matters

As you write, focus on how you have adapted, learned, and persisted — and on what your experiences reveal about who you are at your core.

Aim to answer one question: Who am I, based on how I have lived, what I value, and how I show up in the world? Write it so that someone could understand not just what has happened in your life, but who you have become because of it.

You are not defined by where you have been, but by what you choose next.

Return to this workbook as often as you like. The person you are becoming is always in progress.